Food. Sex. Magic: Aphrodisiac Foods for a Healthy Sex Life

In this episode, Naked Librarian host, Victoria Payne, interviews Amy Reiley, an aphrodisiac food expert, about the connection between food and sexual health. They discuss how certain foods can affect sex drive and performance, and provide tips for incorporating aphrodisiac foods into meals. Amy explains that foods like dark chocolate, chili peppers, coffee, and pineapple can have positive effects on sexual health. She also emphasizes the importance of hydration and a varied, colorful diet for overall sexual well-being. The conversation highlights the importance of individual preferences and finding foods that both partners enjoy. Amy cautions against consuming foods that are endangered or dangerous, as they have no proven aphrodisiac effects. Always seek professional advice for any sexual health concerns.

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Speaker 1:        You can affect your sexual health and performance without prescription drugs or expensive supplements. When it comes to sex, food really is medicine.

Speaker 1:        So how's your sex life? Kind of an intimate question, I know, but did you know that 40% of women age 40 or older report a lowered sex drive and after 50, that drops to 34% and men aren't doing that much better? With 46% of men over 50 reporting some issue with erectile dysfunction. Now, don't get me wrong, I hope you have an amazing, fulfilling, tremendous sex life. I wish you many orgasms and wet and wild nights, but if you're like a lot of Americans over 40, your sex life may not be what it once was before kids and your twenties perimenopause, or the stress about paying for college or saving for retirement. In fact, there's a lot that goes into our sexual yearnings and enjoyment beyond aging and hormones. And perhaps no big surprise here, our mental health plays a big part. Now for the good news, you can affect your sexual health and performance without prescription drugs or expensive supplements when it comes to sex, food really is medicine.

Speaker 1:        And today I'm going to introduce you to an aphrodisiac food superhero goddess who is helping men and women have happy sex lives until their dying day, if of course, that is what they want and why not want that? Sex is fun. It relieves tension, provides pleasure, and builds intimacy with your partner. Hi, I'm Victoria Payne, your host and the creator of The Naked Librarian, where I uncover the truth about health and happiness for grown ass women. If you're new here, welcome. I'm so glad you're here. I'm a writer, storyteller and recovering English professor who uses her nerd power and love of good stories to bring you wellness news with some spice. Today you meet Amy Riley, a astronomical sex expert. Amy has an MA in astronomy from LA Cord Blue and is the author of five Aphrodisiac cookbooks, including Fork Me Spoon, me, and her latest project, the Better Sex Bundle for Men.

Speaker 1:        You can find amazing recipes and free resources over at her website, eat something sexy.com. In this episode, Amy's got your hot tips on foods to amp up your sex drive, what to order and what to avoid on a romantic night out. And for the nerd choir, like me, some science behind why certain foods come with sexual health benefits. And yes, sometimes it's the actual nutrients, but sometimes it's the experience, the sound dark chocolate makes when you snap off a bite. That's what we're talking about. So if you're at all curious about what to eat or even what to hand feed your partner, join me in this fun and inspired conversation with Amy. Oh, and bring your notepad. You're probably going to want to jot a few of these tips down, or if you're in your car, maybe make some mental notes because you are in for a treat.

Speaker 2:        So I'm so happy that you can join me today and people are going to listen to this at some point, but I think it's worth noting that we are just one day before we're like Valentine's Day Eve, and this is your time. This is when it sounds like you've had this amazing season of people wanting to talk to you about your specialty. And so I'm just curious, what have been some of the appearances that you've made, some of these special things that have happened because of your specialty in Aphrodisiac Foods?

Speaker 3:        Oh my goodness. Well, first of all, I love that Valentine's Day Eve. Yes, it's the most, I mean, today is the more wonderful day. It's like you can anticipate Valentine's Day. I always like that feeling. So wonderful things. So I just found out that some of my quotes are recipes are going to be featured on AARP's website for Valentine's Day. So yes, so what is it, 55, 50? I don't even know the age range. Anyway, the over something crowd is going to have a little extra nudge towards some romance and maybe some nookie,

Speaker 2:        Right? Because as I'm sure you discuss often age shouldn't be the end of desire and equity sex life. So I was so excited to learn about you and what you do, and I'm just dying to know how did you become an expert in aphrodisiac, a goddess designation? Is that black belt degree? How do you become this?

Speaker 3:        That's as a frightening thought. Like a black belt in Aphrodisiac is a little, I might be a little kinky, I don't know. But no, it was actually, so I started out in the food business as actually a wine writer. I had worked in a winery tasting room. It was my first job after college. I learned a great, great deal about wine and I really loved it. And so I was working as a freelance wine writer for many years, pretty successfully. And I sometimes dabbled in food as well. And I happened to have a degree of massage therapy, so I sometimes got to write for spa magazines, which was kind of fun. There were some really great perks that go along with writing for a spa magazine. But I became very, very, very, very, very, very sick. And it took to get a diagnosis. And finally the doctor figured out that it was a combination of a mold allergy and a systemic yeast infection, which is a very weird thing. And basically it just, between the two of them, they destroyed my digestive system. It wasn't working, and I was just constantly losing weight, and I was exhausted. I mean was of course, I had no sex drive. I had no desire to get out of bed. And unfortunately, or fortunately, I don't want to say cure, what would be the word be? I can't find the word. But anyway, the prescription, the regime, whatever, to get better.

Speaker 3:        It was a diet that was incredibly restrictive, truly horrible. I mean, the most restrictive diet you could probably ever imagine. Luckily, it wasn't for that long, but I want to say for three weeks I was completely restricted. I could have, for example, I could have no sugar of any kind, which meant not even lemon juice on a salad. It was really, and there were a lot of other things I couldn't have as well. It wasn't just sugar. And that went on for maybe three weeks, and then I was so excited the first time I got to eat a green apple. It was the first fruit you were allowed to introduce. And I just remember biting into that crunchy apple. I was so happy. So I went through this journey on this diet. The amazing thing about it though was that I started feeling better almost immediately, and I was really stunned by how much what we put in our bodies, the food we choose to put in our bodies can impact the way we feel almost instantly.

Speaker 3:        And so I became very interested in that specific part of the health side of food. And I didn't want to talk about fad diets or restrictive diets or any of those things, but I was really interested in this whole idea. And I also was very interested. I happened to just love food history. I love mythology, I love folklore. And so I started learning about aphrodisiacs and I was like, oh, these are really, those are cool from a folkloric standpoint and all this mythology. And then I started reading the science side and reading a lot of papers and scientific journals and realizing that this was it. This is an area for me that can combine this interest and knowledge I have of how food can truly impact your holistic self along with this wonderful interest in food history and folklore and all of those things. And so that was my very long-winded way of saying, that's why I'm into aphrodisiacs.

Speaker 2:        Well, I love this notion of when you're sick and that you're sick. Sometimes we have something that's sort of dull or problematic, but not creating situations where we don't want to get out of bed. And so we just have this gnawing sense. And it's interesting that when we're truly sick, how some of the basic things like food can really demonstrate the power that we have on our overall health. And we hear it all the time. Food is medicine. And in your story, we really hear that. And so food is medicine, especially what we're going to get into in terms of sexual health. And I think you talk about it as sexual health and performance, which I think is really interesting, right? Because you can have your sex drive and then you can have your enjoyment of sex, how much your partner enjoys having.

Speaker 3:        And that's another whole part of it is how is your partner going to benefit and how can you use food to increase intimacy? So there's really very much a holistic experience using aphrodisiacs in your daily, in your diet or in planning a special meal.

Speaker 2:        So I wanted to reach back to when we were talking about Valentine's Day Eve, and you were saying part of the anticipation of Valentine's Day is part of the enjoyment, and is that also part of Aphrodisiac Foods is the, it's not just the food that you're putting in your mouth, but it's the way that you're eating and the relationship you're having with what you're eating.

Speaker 3:        Oh, I definitely, I feel very much so. That is incredibly important from how you set the scene to how you invite the other person to the table, or maybe you're cooking it together and anticipating together. I do. I think that's a really huge, huge part of the effectiveness of aphrodisiac in the context of you want to have a romantic experience, not in the context of changing your diet to sort of change your performance or your desire.

Speaker 2:        So a lot of people go out to dinner for Valentine's or they have a special date night, or it's Friday night, they go out to eat. And we don't always have in our refrigerator, sorry, we don't always have on the menu what we might otherwise have at home. So if you had any advice for people going out either for Valentine's Day, what would you say? Hey, if you want this to be a romantic night, do these things.

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Speaker 3:        In fact, I have done a lot of consulting with chefs and restaurants on creating a Valentine's Day menu that could be effective in that way rather than just picking the things that sound like the most decadent, which is usually where a chef will go. So I do recommend, and some people will be sad, I recommend staying away from steak. Not that there's anything wrong with enjoying a steak when you want to enjoy a steak, but it makes you sleepy. It ends, the blood has to go to your stomach to digest that steak. Well, we want blood flow to go somewhere else if you're going to high, if you're going to go home and get it on, yes, the blood flow has to go somewhere else. So I tend to other heavy foods as well. A pasta and a cream sauce, not a great choice. I don't care if it has truffles on it.

Speaker 3:        Yes, they are an aphrodisiac, but that pasta with the cream sauce is going to be really hard for your body to digest. I remember once I was working with a absolutely wonderful, very talented chef, and he had this wonderful Valentine's Day menu of light and exciting foods, and then he wanted to finish the meal with a giant ice cream sundae for two. And I was like, oh, no, honey. No, we don't want to do that to people. You don't want to have that sugar overload. You don't want to have that heavy, high calorie dessert. And I'm not saying that these things aren't great once in a while, but if your goal is to go home and enjoy a little romance, these are not the things you want to eat. Have a lighter dessert or a share a small dessert. One of my favorite romantic dinner desserts is ado, which is a shot of espresso with a scoop of gelato. Delicious light, sexy. I love the hot cold contrast. My theory is that foods that have multiple temperatures or multiple textures help pull you into the moment. They help make you more present because of those seductive sensory elements. So I always look for those in a meal. Many of my recipes have multiple elements in that way to kind of pull the diner in and make them feel present.

Speaker 2:        Oh, these are great. So what I'm hearing is that when it comes to planning for a romantic night or looking forward to something like that, there's some things that we can do at dinnertime, and it sounds like avoiding foods that are harder to or take more energy to digest or taste blood flow, fattier dishes that might make us more full and tired. So almost, it's almost like the romantic, the sex that's happening later, that's the dessert, and you've got to save room for it, right?

Speaker 3:        Oh, totally. Yes. Yes. Or the other way is skip dessert, go home, get it on, and then pull a nice cake out of the fridge. I mean, that works too,

Speaker 2:        Right? Have your ice cream sundae afterwards. Yeah. Yeah. Forever in the movies, it was always smoke a cigarette after sex, and we're pretty sure that's bad for us now. Yeah, so ice cream sundae, that could be the next great trend. Walk me through the science a little bit of aphrodisiac foods and how they actually work, because this part is, I think the part I understand the least, but I find really fascinating.

Speaker 3:        So when you look at most foods that are historically considered aphrodisiac, you can find some nutritional tie to sexual health. I mean, that's really where most of it comes from. There are a few foods that are a little more mysterious. We don't really understand chocolate. It is an incredibly complex food, and we just don't know exactly how it's affecting the body. I mean, we have some ideas, but we know that it helps with, it could potentially promote dopamine production and some of these things we might've heard, it's a feel good food. The truth of the matter is you probably, in order to achieve those kinds of feelings, you'd probably have to eat more chocolate than is humanly possible in one sitting. So we just don't quite understand that. We know that the bromine in chocolate has an effect that is similar to caffeine, but we haven't drilled down exactly how.

Speaker 3:        We know pretty well how caffeine affects you and amounts not figured out so well for chocolate, and especially because every chocolate maker has a little bit different of a percentage of cacao, which is the base of chocolate. So that makes it hard. But what we do know is that dark chocolate is superior to milk chocolate when it comes to seduction, and that's because it's the cacao. It's that main ingredient in chocolate that has the aphrodisiac effect. And so when you're having milk chocolate, it's got a whole lot more sugar and milk to make it delicious and sweet and light and creamy, but dark chocolate where it has that sort of rich, exotic taste, that's what you want.

Speaker 2:        I am stuck thinking about chocolate now. Forgive me.

Speaker 3:        It's a good thing to be stuck thinking about, really.

Speaker 2:        So then there's nutrient content has been linked to sexual health, which is interesting because a lot of aucc foods is folkloric. So it's really interesting to see that connection. I mean, this happens over and over. The smarter we get, the more we realize People 2000 years ago understood things that were just now needing science to prove, but I find that so cool to know that way back when some of these foods that were on the sexy eat list are now, we can actually peer inside them and know how they affect our bodies.

Speaker 3:        Totally, completely. There are a lot of foods that just directly help support sexual hormone production, plain and simple. That's why men should eat almonds. So there's a lot of that. And then there are some foods that were studied even further to kind of go more in depth. Pomegranate juice is a really great example. You may remember there were ads a few years ago about drink pomegranate juice because you'll have a better sex life, basically. And there's been a tremendous amount of study on specifically pomegranate juice and how it affects men's sexual health and men's testosterone. It's really all quite interesting. But the most interesting thing to me is that all of the research was paid for by one of two or three pomegranate juice companies.

Speaker 2:        Yes. That is important for us to note. Well, now that makes me curious because the food that I've been hearing a lot about for men's sexual health and virility is beets and beet juice. What do you think of that?

Speaker 3:        So it's funny when you have that one food, you just cannot, you just can't. I just can't, can't do beets. So yes, there is definitely evidence that beets are nutritionally superior to a lot of foods when it comes to sexual health for both men and women. I know there's a little more, there tends to be more research for men sometimes. It isn't necessarily that the food is better for men. It just tends to be that the research was paid for to research, to look for men, and women are definitely a little underrepresented in this arena. I think there's some of that going on with beets. But yeah, I haven't gone deep with beets. It's just not my food

Speaker 2:        As a gardener. I love that. I haven't gone deep with beets. Yeah, yeah. It's better when they grow far under the ground. Yeah. So boy, I think that's very interesting that the research on women's sexual health is not a surprise that we don't have as much, but interesting that more of it exists on the male side.

Speaker 3:        Although you would think from the perspective of the reason that what I do isn't talked about all that much is because the drug companies would prefer to sell sexual enhancement and sexual performance drugs, and those are all for men. So you would think that the research would be for women when there's an open market there, there's no drug company trying to compete. So I think we're just ignored.

Speaker 2:        Yeah. Well, and I find all of that really interesting because we know when women move into, we talk about it as over 40 or perimenopause or menopause, that's when many women began to see changes in their sex drive and their sexual health and vaginal dryness and all that good stuff. Has your research gone into this area as well? Because I know that there's a lot of women who maybe have just, they just think I'm in a different phase of life having children. Maybe I've been married for a long time, maybe I am divorced and I'm not interested. Even in dating, I don't quote miss sex. What does the research say about having a low sex drive? Should we be concerned about that?

Speaker 3:        I've never seen it presented as a symptom of greater problems. So no, I don't think it's something to worry about, but I also don't think it's something you should just accept. I mean, if you're in a phase, phases are fine. We all go through different seasons, but it shouldn't be like, this is the rest of my life because it doesn't work anymore. Because you can always make it. You can make it work till the day you die, really? So that should be no reason not to, if that's what you want.

Speaker 2:        Let's back up for a second. So until the day we die, well, okay, maybe not that day, but I feel like what you're saying is until our lives are very different, sex can be a part of it, but that's amazing that a part of our lives that we associate with being young and can stay with us if we're healthy.

Speaker 3:        So in my job, people like to overshare, and I can tell you, I even know one very vibrant 94-year-old woman who is still very much enjoying that side of her life.

Speaker 2:        That sounds great. I'm so happy for her, and I hope that she's representative of other women who

Speaker 3:        Absolutely, well, I think she's for sure representative of the potential, if not the actuality.

Speaker 2:        Very, very true. And that is really interesting because we're living in a time where a lot of what we talk about is how to optimize our lifestyles, how to improve our performance. And so it's a very exciting time because we have this wealth of knowledge. So if you were talking directly to women approaching 40 or older than 40, what are the food recommendations or habits or practices that you would say Start here.

Speaker 3:        I haven't researched this deeply yet. I am currently working on a new book, a new product called The Better Sex Bundle for Women, which is coming out in April. And that will be, yeah, that's going to be a whole chapter because I know that I know what happens. I've seen it plenty of times. I've heard plenty. For example, I know there are plenty of things that we can do, such as good old dark chocolate can actually help balance the pH of a woman's vagina. So eating dark chocolate can actually help with a woman's vaginal health. Hydration is also critically important for both men and women, but especially women in that age range. Some actually, I've noticed with women working professionalism and mothers and any woman who's kind of got a lot of things going on tends to forget that they tend to be juggling all the balls and forget about themselves. And one of the biggest things they forget about is staying hydrated and drinking plenty of water and know the eight glass a day rule isn't necessarily a hard and fast rules. Some people find they actually need more and some people need less. But certainly staying hydrated is super duper important to your sexual health.

Speaker 2:        So what I'm hearing is we need to drink more water, which is a struggle for a lot of people, including me. And we get to eat chocolate.

Speaker 3:        Oh, totally. Absolutely. All the time. I went through a phase. I had to stop because the dark chocolate bar melted, but I went through a phase for about a year. I always had a dark chocolate bar in my purse, and anytime I got into an unpleasant situation, like a long line at the post office, I'd pull out the dark chocolate bar, snap off a square, and just hearing the snap would kind of change my mood already and I'd eat my piece of chocolate and I would just be okay with whatever it was. And then one day the chocolate bar melted, so maybe carry a cooler, I don't know. But it was a terrific aid to getting through my day and it was helping my sexual health.

Speaker 2:        Yeah, it sounds like dark chocolate is the win-win or men and men.

Speaker 3:        Oh yeah, for sure it is. So I have a list of foods that are, I have a website called Eat something sexy.com, and on there we have a list of the 10 best foods for men and the 10 best foods for women. And dark Chocolate actually makes the list for women just because there are some extra things that help us, and women tend to be the ones, quite frankly, who might need that little boost of mood. We kind of take on the world. But it is absolutely great for everyone. So stock up on dark chocolate bars for your next date night.

Speaker 2:        Okay, wonderful. So I'm already thinking about, I like de Goba chocolate. I think we invest in some of that. So in terms of women's sexual health, we do have our unique changes. I like how you broke down, moms have their own sort of thing going on, especially if you have young children. And then we also have, when your career is your focus, I mean, there's so much related to stress and burnout, and I know I've heard some women and men complain that sex feels like one more thing to do.

Speaker 3:        Yeah, it's on the to-do list, and that's a terrible, terrible shame

Speaker 2:        Because it provides so much value and relief and enjoyment and closeness and connection with someone that you love or someone that you love that night. So we think about some of these other foods. So we talked about chocolate. Someone is experiencing stress or anxiety. What are some of the other foods that you would recommend they make part of their regular life?

Speaker 3:        So my big thing, I always just tell everyone, eat your five fruits and vegetables every day. They kind of help everything. And that's partially because they help hydrate. A lot of fruits are very hydrating, watermelon, grapefruit. And then on top of that, they are a great source of fiber and nothing works when our gut isn't working. So we need these quality fiber foods, and they're something that we often don't get. So that's my first suggestion to everyone. Eat your five fruits and vegetables a day, and if you're not sure you can get them all in, then make it your goal. I'm going to eat my five fruits and vegetables before I eat anything else. It really works.

Speaker 2:        I'm thinking of the scene. Have you seen the movie? This is 40.

Speaker 3:        No.

Speaker 2:        Okay. Highly recommend. There's a hilarious scene with the husband and wife and they've got two young kids and they're getting ready for bed. And the husband goes, so do you want to have sex tonight? She goes, not really. I'm really constipated. And he goes, oh, she says, I mean, unless you want to. And so, yeah, constipation, not feeling like you've really relieved yourself.

Speaker 3:        Not even, and not even, it's even just the grumbly gut. The grumbly gut or just general bloating, all of it. It's not,

Speaker 2:        None of that is aphrodisiac.

Speaker 3:        So everything you need, everything needs to stay lubricated. Obviously men are reliant on it. You can't make semen without being properly hydrated. So seminal fluid needs a woman's vaginal hydration is very important. We're all kind of screwed. If we're dehydrated,

Speaker 2:        We're not. We're unscrewed it sounds like.

Speaker 3:        Well, yes, completely, a hundred percent not going to happen.

Speaker 2:        So I feel like one of the things that I'm learning is that there's easy stuff that we can do. It's not a big diet change. In fact, it sounds like there's more additions than sub attractions, but I do know there's probably also a few things besides stake that might be affecting our sexual health and ongoing way. What are some of the other things that you say? Watch these?

Speaker 3:        Yeah, I mean, it's the obvious stuff like fried food is not going to improve your sex life at all. So it's things like that. It's eating a lot of simple carbs. It's eating a lot of fried things. These things are not great for your sexual health. Obviously they're not great for your overall health. So sticking to a variety of foods, a nice, healthy, varied diet, just eating colorful foods, that's another great way we eat your five fruits and vegetables a day and eat a plate of colorful food. These are things that just are going to help.

Speaker 2:        I love eating the rainbow, and I wrote a little bit about this and a recent article because I think eating the rainbow, obviously we can see the nutrients in the food. You have these bright colors telling you this food is good for you. But I think the feast for the eyes and the way the color impacts your mood even before it gets into your body, is so great. I love that this is a crossover habit that's really in there.

Speaker 3:        Yeah, I have to say, I look at a beige plate and I feel a little sad. It just doesn't, it's not inspiring.

Speaker 2:        Yes. Last night I added a little yellow pepper to my salad because it was looking, believe it or not, too green,

Speaker 3:        Too green. I get it.

Speaker 2:        I needed something else in there. So if someone were to say, okay, design me the perfect romantic meal, do you have something in mind what you would say, eat this.

Speaker 3:        I do have something in mind, but my advice might surprise you. My advice is to think about what you and your partner would both enjoy. I cannot give you one single meal because just in my own household, what would work, what be best for me is absolutely not what my husband wants to be eating for that romantic meal. So think about foods that you both and then go from there. Actually, I'm going to send you to eat something sexy.com because we have all kinds of free resources. We have tons of recipes, so you'll find something that you can both enjoy. We even have some menus there of romantic evening menus.

Speaker 2:        Plan your Perfect Meal. Thanks for that reminder. I know what you're talking about. Not as much. I haven't thought about it as much in terms of sexual health, but this weekend I made my husband sort of my favorite breakfast. I know what he likes for breakfast, and sometimes it's the same as me, but I've been really into toast with edamame smash and overly eggs and pickled onions and sprouts, and it just makes me feel, it's very colorful. I feel so happy. And I could tell for him, it was more like, oh, what have you made me? It wasn't what I was going for. I was going more for like, wow. So I can only imagine if someone has really put their heart in to beautiful aphrodisiac inspired menu, and then their partner is like, oh, I don't like beets. Yeah, I am allergic to chocolate. So understanding what those things are. There's nothing like hurt feelings in what you're going forward and trying to turn you on

Speaker 3:        And all the disappointment. Yeah, no, it just doesn't work. So you've got to figure out what's going to work for the two of you, I could name off some ingredients that would be great choices that maybe they'll inspire. Like chili peppers are actually amazing for a romantic evening. They raise your body temperature and they make your lips plump up and your tongue tangles. It's very exciting. But if you hate spice, don't do it. Coffee, I mentioned earlier, coffee is great if you're trying to move from dinner to the bedroom for a little late night. And so it gives you that little spark of energy when you need it. Right. So that's a great one. You and I were talking, was it the other day we talked about pineapple pineapple's, another wonderful one. It makes my list of the 10 best foods for men's sexual health, actually. So these are all fun, great things like a light protein fish. Seafood is wonderful. Fish oysters, the classic, the aphrodisiac classic perfect

Speaker 2:        Oysters cause me to think of this. Are there any foods that have been touted as aphrodisiac but really aren't?

Speaker 3:        The ones that I have found that really aren't, are the weird, freaky things that are either endangered or dangerous to eat. They really have no, there's absolutely nothing to substantiate them. And I can never figure out, I can't draw the line to where this could have started and why people continue to prize rhino horn and Spanish fly. These are not things anyone ever should consume and they're going to do nothing for you.

Speaker 2:        That those I feel like I've read about maybe in novels. It is interesting that about the origins of when these come to be, it sounds like some kind of old wives tale that got out of hand,

Speaker 3:        Right? Right. I mean, a rhino horn is just keratin, right? It, it's like the same stuff as our fingernails. What if you're not going to eat your fingernails? So there's some peculiar ones out there that are just myths. Stay away from them. But anything that has nutritious, has nutritional value, go for it.

Speaker 2:        I love how just the nutrition lines up with the sexual health also. So you shared with us where we can find more menus, and I know that your better sex bundle for men is out now. Where can people find that?

Speaker 3:        So you can go straight to eat something sexy.com. You will find the better sex bundle for men there as well. And those lists I talked about, the 10 Best Foods for Men and the 10 Best Foods for Women, definitely check those out. And if you want to get news on when the better sex bundle for women is coming out, be sure to sign up for my mailing list. I actually reply when people write to me from the mailing list. It's actually my favorite part of my job. So yeah, I'll throw away the tasks that I really should be doing, and I'll just sit there writing back and forth with people.

Speaker 2:        I love it. Well, I loved our conversation. Thank you so much for taking the time. I know this is the busy season and we get to relax into post Valentine's soon. And yeah, I just really appreciate you. Thank you.

Speaker 3:        Oh, thank you so much. Happy romantic night. Be it Valentine's Day or whenever you do it.

Speaker 1:        I hope you enjoy this production of The Naked News. Everything created here is for educational and entertainment purposes and should not take the place of talking with a medical or mental health professional. These are tips, but not replacements for individualized support, which you totally deserve. If your sex drive experience or performance is not everything you want it to be, see your doctor or talk to a therapist. Maybe even loop your partner in because as they say, sex is life. Oh, and remember to visit [email protected] to sign up for recess, my Curated wellness newsletter that includes research, health tips, expert guides, recipes, music workouts, fun and more, cheers to delivering your very best life.

Speaker 4:        I.